Him: I’ve always wanted to travel to Japan.
Me: Why haven’t you been yet?
Me: Well you work in the right place to start a travel savings account.
Him: I’ve tried saving, but I go to Philly a few times every year for a video gaming event and spend it all.
This is the conversation I just had with the teller at the bank. It’s a pretty common conversation I have while there.
They ask me about my business, Making Travel Happen (the sister company to Your Adventurous Life), and I share how I focus on helping people move past barriers keeping them from travel. Then they freely share exactly why they never go anywhere, or at least not to the places that appeal to them the most.
Of course, it’s not just at the bank where I get into these conversations. This is one of many. And this is also one of many conversations where the barriers keeping anyone from doing anything they want have a clear go-to blame object.
The most common is the one today’s teller mentioned: money. Others are, no surprise, time, and restricted by other obligations.
Turns out, there’s a pattern to what’s stopping you from doing anything you want to do. It all comes down to convincing yourself it’s not happening and blaming something or someone for the reason why.
But what if we flipped the structure of the conversation? What if we changed our pattern by saying, oh, the only thing keeping me from doing X is the fact that I keep making excuses. And then let’s extend the spiel to say, and the excuses I keep making are just stories I tell myself so often that I believe it.
Now hone even further…
And now that I’m saying this out loud I realize it’s not as big of a barrier as I’ve made it out to be.
You know what? It’s about time I get going and take the first decisive step in making X happen.
This form of switching the conversation into a can-do thing is easy enough to write. It’s a whole other ballpark to make the change.
Change is key. And clarity on what that change is completes the magic recipe to get started.
If you want to afford a big international trip, you have to stop blowing all your money elsewhere. You have to know what kind of budget you need for the place you want to visit. Then you have to save up if you don’t have the money, or assign your current money as travel money.
If you want to switch careers, you first have to be clear on what kind of career you want to shift to. You might already know this, or you might have no idea. The first step is figuring out where you are and taking the next deliberate step from there.
This just scratches the surface on making change, but gives you an idea of the kind of steps you need to take in order to make big things happen in your life.
Want to dig deeper on this topic? Stay tuned, I’m hosting a webinar on this shortly and details are to come.
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